Grief Is a Portal: Walking Through Loss With Love
Grief doesn’t follow rules. It doesn’t respect calendars or expectations. It arrives uninvited, quiet at first, then all-consuming. And just when you think it has passed, it loops back around. Whether you’ve lost a parent, a friend, a grandparent, a pet, or a version of yourself…
Grief is a shape-shifter. And it deserves to be honoured.
🌒 What Grief Can Feel Like
Grief isn’t just sadness, it can also feel like:
Exhaustion that sleep can’t touch
Rage at the world continuing on
Numbness or brain fog—a kind of emotional freeze
Physical pain or tension in the body (tight chest, aching limbs, headaches)
Guilt, for what we said, didn’t say, or simply for surviving
Fear, especially if the loss was sudden or traumatic—fear of more loss, of being alone, of the unknown
Shock, where time stands still and everything feels surreal, like watching life from behind a glass wall
Longing, so deep it aches in your bones—the desperate wish to have just one more moment
Disorientation, like you’ve lost your anchor, your sense of self or direction
All of it is valid. There’s no “right” way to grieve. There’s just your way.
🕊️ What I’ve Learned from Grief (and My Clients)
Grief is love, with nowhere to go.
It speaks to how deeply we cared, how deeply we were shaped by them.It comes in waves, not stages.
The idea of moving from denial to acceptance in neat steps? Not real life. Real grief cycles. It spirals.We don’t “get over” it, we grow around it.
We make space in our lives to carry the love and the pain. And in that carrying, we change. We soften. We deepen.
🕯️ A Grief Ritual for the Soul
Light a candle and place a photo, object, or memory of your person (or pet, or lost version of yourself) beside it. Say their name aloud. Let the silence hold it. Speak a message to them, thell them what you wish they knew. Or simply say, “You are still with me.”
Let the tears come if they do. Let the stillness come if they don’t. Grief honours presence. So just being with it is enough.
🪞 Words for the Grieving Heart:
“You don’t move on from grief. You move forward with it, carrying the echoes and the love.” — Zanny Jode
🌿 You Are Not Alone
If you’re carrying something heavy, I want you to know that you don’t have to do this alone.
Whether you’re ready to talk, cry, remember, rage, or simply sit, there’s space for all of it in my practice.
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